A Better Human Being for Life”​ Easy manual by Vladimiro Di vito

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In the world we live in, I have found that there are a lot of people out there who have gotten so caught up in the daily grind and the everyday struggles of life that they have forgotten what it is to be good to one another. And for this reason, I have created this list to be a Better Human Being, because if we are all better to ourselves and others, the world will be a happier place for all of us.

Found ways to be a Better Human Being with no particular order:

Make an effort to be more positive. Being negative all the time really is a choice, so try to make a different choice. Make the choice to be positive instead. When a negative thought pops into your head, make it a game to try to put a positive spin on it. It might be hard in the beginning, but eventually it will feel so natural.

Smile more. You would be amazed at what a smile can do for someone.

Volunteer. Helping others is a great thing to do, and you would be amazed at how good it makes you feel too.

Donate. It doesn’t matter what you donate, just donate! It could be donating food to a food bank, donating a toy to Toys for Tots, donating money to your favorite charities, or just donating your time. Giving to others is so rewarding, and think of all the people you will be helping! It’s great!

Be more giving to your loved ones. Stop thinking about what they do for you, and start thinking more about what you can do for them. Make them little gifts, give them an unexpected hug or back rub, put their favorite songs on when you’re listening to music, and just make them feel special. It doesn’t have to be something big, just something that says “I care.” I like to color pages from coloring books and hang them on my roommate’s door just to cheer her up. She loves it! I also send her little texts while she is at work with quotes from our favorite movies and songs. And I always make sure to surprise my boyfriend with little gifts and things. For example, he loves snowmen, so I always try to pick up little things with snowmen for him, like a cute snowman plushie from a craft sale or a mini snowman ornament from the cider mill. It always makes him happy.

Choose love over hate. You may not like someone or something, but you should respect that it is on this Earth and that there may be good there somewhere that we just can’t see. I know that I don’t understand everything in this life, and there’s no way that I can understand everyone’s purpose here, but I know that making an effort to love every living thing on this Earth has made me much more compassionate, loving, and accepting. And that feels pretty amazing.

Try not to be judgmental. None of us have all the answers, and none of us know the “right” path through life. All we can do is try our best and understand that everyone’s decisions, beliefs, and feelings are not like ours.Be more open minded. I have an easy time having fun wherever I am because I am super open minded. I can have a blast at a country bar with a bull to ride and line dancing, and I can have a great time at a club that plays only the best house music around. I can sing along to Led Zeppelin and The Beatles just as well as I can sing along to Miley Cyrus and Britney Spears. I can find fun at a craft show, a carnival, a concert, a bar, a hookah lounge, an amusement park, a museum, a flea market, a sporting event, a hoe-down, a disco, a family gathering, a crazy college party, a music festival, an antique show, a Civil War re-enactment, a Sci-Fi convention, a fashion show, etc. Why? Because I keep an open mind and allow myself to enjoy it all.

Be real. Nothing is worse than meeting someone and knowing that they are putting on a show, giving you what they THINK you want. Here’s the truth… I want people to be real. I don’t care if you have flaws… we all do! I do care about being deceived though, and if you’re not being 100% real, you are deceiving people. Don’t be fake… just be who you are!

Accept who you are. I always tell my students “You are the best person you know, so you need to respect yourself and love yourself.” I really believe this. If you can just accept who you are and what you want to be and worry less about what’s “wrong” with you, you will be much happier, and therefore a better contributor to our world. So forget that your body doesn’t look like Giselle’s and that you aren’t a mega-money maker like Bill Gates, and just embrace the things you do have! When you really start to look for the good things, you’ll find that the good usually outweighs the bad.

“You are the best person you know…”

Make an effort to “go green.” It’s becoming easier and easier these days, as “going green” has become quite trendy, but not only is it trendy… it’s important. Why destroy this beautiful Earth? Let’s do all we can to save it!

Promote peace and love. It may sound like a hippie notion, but you don’t have to be a hippie to want people to be good to one another.

Choose to be non-violent. Use your brain instead of your fists. All violence does is hurt, and why would you want to hurt anyone? But at the same time, know that violence happens, and prepare yourself to protect and defend if need be. Taking a self-defense course or karate is great because they show you ways to protect and defend, but also instill in you the desire to not want to use what you’ve learned.

Read inspirational things, spiritual things, and self-help things. It’s amazing how much you can learn just from reading other people’s thoughts and strategies.

Do your best. Always. Whether it’s at your job, in your home life, or just in your creative endeavors, don’t ever say “this is good enough.” It’s not good enough unless it’s the best you could do. And it doesn’t matter where you work. If you work at McDonald’s, make sure that you are friendly to the customers, that you are following all the guidelines for quality and cleanliness, and try to improve your efficiency daily. If you work at a school, go above and beyond your duties to make sure that the students are getting the best education possible. If you work in an office, make sure that you spend more time on your work and less on Facebook. Don’t slack off! You will be a much better contributor to society and feel better about yourself if you do your best.

Take care of your body. Believe it or not, physical and mental health are very important aspects of being a good person. If you put good food into your body, work out, and take time out to de-stress or grow spiritually, you will be a better person. If you feel your best, look your best, and are able to be focused and centered, there is no telling what you can do for others.

Expand your horizons. If you don’t know a lot about something, read a book, take a class, or learn from a friend. It’s great to learn new things and have new experiences because it teaches you more about yourself, helps you to be more open minded (which we talked about earlier), and connects you with other people who you may have never had a chance to meet otherwise.

Do something unexpected and nice for someone every once in awhile. Pay for a stranger’s toll at a toll booth, shovel the snow out of your neighbor’s driveway in the morning before they go to work, leave an extra big tip for a good waiter or waitress, etc. Be creative and spontaneous!

Have good manners. Hold doors for people, say excuse me when you burp, chew with your mouth closed, show respect for the elderly, and say please and thank you. So many of these things have gone out the window, and all it’s doing is making our society uncultured, unmannered, and simply put: rude. So be a better person by having good social etiquette.

It’s simple, but true. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Or how about this one: “Treat others the way that you want to be treated.” Sayings like these just make sense! Maybe you should follow their advice.

“Treat others the way that you want to be treated.”

Get out and have fun! If you keep yourself locked up in your house all the time, you’re not contributing to society, you aren’t expanding your horizons, and you’re not becoming a better person… you’re stagnating. So find some friends, go out, and enjoy yourself a little!

Let people know how much you love them. It sounds cliche, but a long life is not guaranteed, so make sure that the people you love know it just in case there isn’t another day after today to let them know.

Along those same lines… live like you are dying. They say that people appreciate the little things in life more once they know that they are dying. Why can’t we do that anyway? Be grateful for the things you have, enjoy your life, and live for today! As James Dean said “Dream as if you’ll live forever, live as if you’ll die today.”

Be a good friend. Good friends accept their friends for who they are, flaws and all. Good friends don’t get caught up in the drama, but instead choose honesty over game playing. Good friends are friends who are always available, even if you haven’t talked in 2 months. Good friends show respect, love, humor, and humility. And being a good friend is a good way to be a good person.

Do nice things for your parents. Whether you get along or not, your parents gave you life. You wouldn’t be here without them, so when you can, do something nice for them.

Do what’s right, even when it isn’t popular. Inner strength and strong morals are important. But remember, what’s right for you doesn’t have to be what’s right for someone else, so as you do what you think is right, don’t put someone else down for doing what they think is right. Just do your thing, follow your heart, and “do the right thing…”

Support local businesses and be more active in your community. Shop at local specialty stores, buy fruits and veggies from farmer’s markets, attend community events and festivals, get involved with local schools, volunteer, and speak well of your community. Being a good community member definitely helps in becoming a better human being.

Seek help when you need it. Some of us are just so afraid of looking stupid, weak, or inept, so we just don’t want to accept help. But really, getting help from others shows humility and a willingness to learn and grow. These are good things!

Turn bad life experiences into positive life lessons.

By Vladimiro Di Vito

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